Where To Start

Ok I now have a new job, that I have never done before, so where do I start?

I recently was offered the Sales and Marketing position at my company. This opportunity would be something that I have not done, but I believe I have the skill set to do it. The only catch, I need to learn what this job entails.

I have done events with my company in the past, but they were very cookie cutter and if they group didn’t fit into what would work for us then we wouldn’t do it. Now I have the freedom to move things around and do actual events.

Oh yeah and the other catch, my company has never had a sales and marketing department so I will have to build it from the ground up. Also I am the only one in this department.

The first thing that I did was search online to see what is out there. What were other companies doing? What type of promotions were they doing? What pricing did other companies have? What time frames do other companies have?

I use to work in hospitality before coming to my company so I have a lot of friends who are in sales so I have people who know more than I do that I can get advise from. Also my boyfriends mother has been doing sales for most of her professional life and she is very successful. I am lucky to have good people around me who I can reach out to in order to get advise and be more successful. I am not alone in this. So now I need to schedule a meeting with each of them.

Some websites that I have found so far that I have learned some information from are:

  • Pinterest (I have used this site for sales and marketing. For the sales side I have pinned things that talk about prospecting and how to use a sales funnel. For the marketing side I have used it to get ideas about decorating for private events or promotions for events.) My Pinterest is under itsallabunchofgalati
  • Linked In (They have a lot of videos to learn from)
  • Different companies in my same industry, our competition.
  • Salesandmarketing.com

After looking around at different websites I have a better idea about what I am getting into. Now I will need to meet with people who know more than I do and start figuring out what I need to do to build the department.

So Much Has Changed

It has been a while and in that time so much has changed. I did start my new job and that was going well for a while. Then things started to go back to the way they were before and I ended up doing my original job and my old job.

I have some blog posts that I had created during that time, but I was not in the right head space to want to put anything up. I was in a state of frustration and maybe a little depression. I am now going to post those and after they have been posted, continue with my new adventure. I have decided to leave my company and this will be my last week here.

Life is constantly changing and evolving and we need to be open to change if something is not going the way you want. My decision about leaving my company was a hard one. I have learned a lot here and have really enjoyed the people I work with. For me this choice was made because I mentally have not been motivated here. I had been getting frustrated with things that I did not get upset with in the past and that to me was a sign that it was time to move on. There were things that lead up to the moment of me deciding that I was done and over the next few posts you will see how it unfolds.

I could just start fresh and not post any of the posts I made while things were not great, but I do know that other people may be going through or have gone through what I have. I hope in someone reading my posts that they can learn something from my experiences. For the longest time I thought the things I went through not many people did and the more people I meet and talk to the more I learn that we all tent to go through the same or similar things, granted each persons situations are different, but the underlining issues or emotions are the same.

If you are not happy with the situation that you are in then just remember that you are the only one who has the power to change that.

How To Give Your New Job a Fresh Start

Starting a new job can be stressful and it can also be exciting. There are many reasons people leave a job and go to another one, but no matter what job you start it is always the same, a fresh start. Maybe you wanted to leave your job because you felt under appreciated, someone kept trying to take your job, people were mean to you, you didn’t know how to do the job, it was to much stress, but no matter the reason you need to go into the new job with a fresh start in mind. Sometimes you don’t leave the company, but just changed departments or maybe you stayed in the same department, but you have a new role in the company. No matter what the situation is, you still need to look at it as a fresh start.

How to give your new job a fresh start:

  • Leave any negativity behind. By brining old drama to the new job you block your creativity and thoughts for the new one, because you will only focus on the negativity of the old. If the reason you left your old job was because of negativity then thinking about that still will mean that you didn’t really leave your old job, it is still with you.
  • Leave any frustrations behind. If there was something that was frustrating about your job before then you need to address what that was and make sure you do not do the same things in your new job. This is an opportunity to put those frustrations aside and go forward. If the frustrations are something that can be corrected then this is the time to do it.
  • Be positive!! I can not stress the importance of this one. No matter how your day is going be positive. A negative mind will ruin your job before it starts. Whatever issues that you had with the old job this is the time to fix them in yourself. A negative mind will only see the bad in things. When you remain positive you do not have stress. If you keep thinking that things will work out then they will. That is the same if you think things are going to fail, they will. Go into the job saying to yourself that you will be successful! You will do an amazing job!
  • Reflect on yourself. This is something that we all should do more often. It is an amazing thing when you can look at yourself and realize that you can do something better. Look at what you did great in your past job and look at what you might have failed in your last job. Now are there things that you could have done differently to change the outcome? Use that to be more successful in your new job. Make sure to take the things that you do really well to your next job. Sometimes we focus to much on what we need to do better that we forget to strengthen what we do well. If you focus on the things you do well, you will do them even better.
  • Have fun!! If you are going to a new company you will be meeting all new people. Make new friends and develop those relationships. We can learn so much from other people if we just take our pride out of the equation and listen. Use that to your advantage. There will be new restaurants that you can try for lunch. Maybe you will find a food that you had never tried and end up loving it. Learn new things. Not every job is the same and we should constantly be learning new things. You spend more time with your co-workers than you do your own family sometimes so why not make it a fun environment to work.
  • Remember nothing is permanent. This is not to scare you, but rather to say that if things are not going well that you are not stuck. You do not have to stay in a place that is draining you. On the other hand if you do love your new job, remember that there is always someone who will want to take your job. Do not dwell on that fact, but make sure you are on top of your game. Everyone has ups and downs, but as long as you are still engaged in your job you will be find.
  • Create balance in your life. Starting a new job can take a lot of your time at first while you get settled in, but remember that you do not live to work. You work to live. Remember that you have a personal life that also needs attention. Sometimes we get so focused on our professional lives that we forget to take care of our personal lives. Finding that balance can be hard, but if we are actively trying to get/maintain that balance then we will be more successful. Work hard and play hard. What is the point in killing yourself at work if you do not get to enjoy the spoils of your labor. Remember you matter to.

I am practicing all of this as well. I didn’t leave my company so some of these points are harder for me than if I did leave, but I am making an active effort for myself. I need to follow these “rules” in order to give myself the opportunity to be successful.

Remember if your dreams do not scare you, then they are not big enough. If you are thinking about taking a leap and going after a new job, I say do it! You got this! Go out into that world and show it how amazing you are!

Welcome Back!

Sorry it has been a while. So much has gone on and I have learned so much about myself in that time. So where to begin………

Holidays are a time to spend with your family and friends. What I didn’t realize was that it could also be a time to self reflect and take an honest look at your situation. I ended up doing this without even realizing it. It can be a hard thing to sit down and ask yourself if you are happy. It could be happy in your personal life or happy in your professional life. I am very happy in my personal life, but I didn’t realize that as time has gone on I have been growing more and more unhappy in my professional life. You may be thinking “how would you not realize you were unhappy at work?”. That is a great question and I look at it like weight gain. When you start gaining weight it is slow and you may not notice it until one day your pants are really tight and you have to go out and get a bigger size. That is how it was for me. There were days that I got irritated, but I would brush it off as a bad day.

I took some time off for the holidays and during that time I spent a lot of time thinking about my job and how I felt in it. I found out that I let certain situations affect how I was professionally. I noticed that professionally I had regressed instead of growing. My guest service had gone down, where I didn’t even want to deal with people. That is not the person that I am. Before this I was the person who went out of their way to help people. The culture in my office was negative and I let myself fall into that frame of mind. Outside of work people would say that I am a very positive person, but at work I was negative about everything. I started being more vocal about things that I didn’t like. How did I get to this point?

In April 2017 I had hip replacement surgery. Before this time I was happy at work. I would wake up excited to go to work. After I came back from my surgery things changed. While I was out my assistant was assisting with some of my tasks, but when I came back I did not get those items back. Now I had less things to do for my job and started to feel out of place. I was told that my role in the company would change and that I would get a new title and a new job description. I waited two months and still had not heard any updated. At that point I reached out to see if that was still happening and was told that they were working on the job description and that I would get it when it was done. Another month after that I was told the job description was done, but not the title. When they finally decided on a title and presented it to me I was not happy about it because it was a step down from what I was doing, yet the amount of work was more than what I was doing. After discussions we all finally agreed on a title that worked for everyone. There were things in the job description that I was not doing before and we were going to discuss how we wanted things rolled out. Well months went by and there was not discussion about it. My title was changed, but my work had not. I was increasingly feeling more and more lost. I felt like I didn’t really have a place in the company and when I asked for more to do and a more defined role I kept being told they would get to it, but they were busy. As time went on the person above me no longer seemed to care about their job and were looking to leave. I ended up taking up the slack they they were letting fall. My role in the company ended up becoming a catch all. Basically if something needed to be done the attitude was “oh Crystal can do that”. That is not a good place to be in.

The holiday was a good break away from everything to take a look from the outside to see what was going on. I found out that I no longer wanted to be in that environment. We ended up getting someone to replace the person above me and this person had a lot that I could learn from. I started to get excited about my job again. Then that person was going to leave because of the culture in the company. Now I was ready to leave. Then something I never thought would happen, the company decided to change the culture and make it positive. I was now going to be given a new role in the company and because of that I got excited again.

I was excited, but I noticed that I would get irritated about things that would not normally affect me. Well I have come to realize maybe I can not let what I went through go quite as easily as I thought I could. This is something I need to deal with. I am still working on that for myself, but I have decided that I have the power to not let a company culture change the person I want to be.

This leads me to where I am now. I am excited about my new role, but I do still have a feeling of unease. I need to continue to work through that and figure out the true issues I am holding onto and learn how to let them go. If I can not do that then I need to do what is best for myself and for the company and that would be to leave. That is not the direction I want to go, but I need to check myself.

This blog will now have two parts to it. I will continue to write about life advise. Now though I have the opportunity to share my experience with starting a new job that I have not done before. I would say that I do not have the job knowledge to do my job, but I do have the skills to learn this job and to succeed in this job. I am now the Event Sales and Marketing Manager for my company. I will distinguish the life advise posts and the sales and marketing posts so that if you are not interested in both of them you can chose what to read. I can tell you that this will be an interesting journey I am embarking on. There are going to be two options for an outcome. I will either be very successful in this or I will fail at it. Failure is not a bad thing. Without failure we would never learn new things. I can admit when I have been defeated, but I don’t intend on having to do that with this journey. I can tell you there will be ups and downs, but it will be a fun ride.

Rules To Meeting The Parents

Meeting the parents can be scary, but it can also be exciting at the same time. Meeting your significant others parents is a big deal. Most people don’t tend to introduce the person they are dating to their parents until they are sure about the relationship. There are exceptions to this, but most of the time meeting the parents is the next step in the relationship. If you have made it this far congratulations!! Meeting the parents means that you are an important person in your significant others life and so they want to introduce you to the other important people in their life. Sometimes meeting the friends is more important than meeting the parents. If that is the case then these rules can be followed as well.

Here are a few simple rules to help get you started:

1.       Don’t freak out! Yes, it can be scary, but concentrate on the good things not the negative what if situations. Keep reminding yourself that your significant other wants you to meet them so they think that you are ready and it is the right time. Also remember that they don’t know you either so the parents will be just as nervous as you are.

2.       They want to meet you! This is a big one to remember and yet most of us forget this part. The parents want to get to know the person that their child is crazy about. Up until this point they only know you through what your significant other has told them. There is also a chance that your significant other has not told them anything so this is the opportunity for the parents to get to know you.

3.       Ask questions! Your significant other is a well of knowledge for you. This is your opportunity to learn as much as possible so you don’t go into this situation blind. Some good things to learn are what topics to stay away from. What their interests are so that if you share the same you will have some topics to talk about. Found out if there is any drama that you will need to stay away from. The last thing you want to do is put your foot in your mouth.

4.       Use basic manners! If you have perfect manners then great, you can skip the rest of this and go onto number five. The most basic manners are please and thank you. The issue that I have is not my please and thank you, it is swearing. I am a lady, but I tend to swear like a sailor. I know this is not a good thing and I need to be better about it, but around the parents it is a no no. Make sure to be respectful even if someone else is not. Extra brownie points if you offer to help, mothers love that.

5.       Know your audience! Two topics to stay away from as a general rule are politics and religion. If you know before hand, ask questions, that you share the same religious background or have the same opinions about politics then it is ok. Religion and politics can start a heated conversation, so if that is what you want then talk away.

6.       Be yourself!! This is the most important rule. Do not try and be the person that you think they want you to be. If you do this then you will come off as fake. Your significant other fell for you, not someone else. Let your personality shine through. If your significant other told their parents about you then they will be excited to meet YOU.

The best advise I can give is to go into the situation with an open mind and always be respectful. If you are relaxed and be yourself, I am sure their parents will fall in love with you as your significant other did.


I just recently met my boyfriends’ parents, this Thanksgiving, and I can say that I was nervous, but I followed these rules and it went great. I can say that I wanted his mom to like me because he is close to his mom, but I didn’t change the way I did things, well I did not swear so for me that was a positive good life change. In my opinion things went really well, but just to make sure I asked my boyfriend and he said his mom liked me. I hope this helps you get through a scary situation.

Please share any rules or tips that would help others. The whole point of this is to share knowledge and help others get through life. Life can be hard so even a little help can make it easier.  

5 Ways To Help After A Disaster

When someone goes through a disaster there are so many things going on. The person who it is directly affecting has so much to think about all at once and those who care about them only want to help. Here is a list of things to keep in mind when wanting to help someone in need. I am writing these rules from my experience from the Paradise Camp Fire, but they can be translated over other disasters such as floods or earthquakes. I am not saying by any means that I am an expert in this type of situation, but I have seen from personal experience what it is like. So no this is now that “law” of what to do, but my opinion from experience.

  1. The first and most important thing to remember is that the person who is suffering has so much going through their mind that first day and the devastation of what has happened has not even sunk in. Do Not ask them what they need, because honestly, they don’t even know. They have not begun to think about the future and how-to re-build or deal with what has happened. If they lost someone, or a pet, there is so much more emotions there. The best thing to do is tell them that you care about them and that you will be there for them should they need support.
  2. Do not tell them that it is just stuff. Yes, that is a fact that it is stuff and that as long as their families are safe that is all that matters. The reality is that the “stuff” was years of their life that they built up through hard work and every item means something. People lose photos of family members, friends, and people they have cared about that are now gone. Sometimes people lose family heirlooms. Those items cannot be replaced. Things like clothes can be replaced, but have you ever thought about the cost of replacing a whole wardrobe? Just to give you an idea about what replacing a wardrobe would cost, underwear (5 for $20 x 2 = $40), shirts ($15 each on average x 10 = $150), pants ($20 each on average x 5 = $100), and pajamas ($20 each on average x 5 = $100). The total for 10 days is $490. The prices I quoted were from Target. I personally have never thought about having to replace my essentials so in making this and looking at the numbers it really opens my eyes to what additional stress has been put on everyone who lost everything.
  3. Be aware when you are donating items. When donating items to people in need make sure that it is actually items they need and you are not just giving them the stuff you meant to take to Goodwill and never did. The clothing items should be in good or like new conditions. Please do not give them items with holes, rips, or stains in them. They are trying to re-build their lives so give them items that will help them be successful in life. I know we all want to help that first day and do what we can, but remember that they maybe displaces and do not have somewhere to store all the items you want to give them. As time goes on they will need to replace everything so donations of big items at that point would be good. At first the best type of donations are cash, given directly to the person you know or a GoFundMe account, or gift cards for them to use to buy the items they need. Donating food is a good thing, but you don’t know what some people dietary needs are or any restriction that they may have and that is why gift cards or cash sometimes is a better option. If you are going to donate through an organization make sure you do research to find out how much of your donation is actually going to go to the people in need, you would be surprised how many organizations only give a small percentage of the donation to the people in need.
  4. Be that shoulder or support system for them. Losing everything causes to so much stress. If you can be their rock or a crutch to help hold them up it will help their situation even if they don’t realize it till later. Some things that you can do to help out. If they have children offer to watch their children so the adults can do something as simple as going to dinner together, this will allow the parents to talk candidly with each other and not worry about upsetting the kids. It will also give the adults time to stop and think about the situation. Even just watching their kids so the parents don’t have to worry about entertaining the kids is huge. You can also be their point person for other family members. It is a lot to handle when everyone is calling you non-stop asking if you are ok and what you need. You can be the person who calls the rest of the family and tells them that they are safe and what they do or do not need at that time. Also if they were evacuated and don’t know if they lost everything or not and then find out that they did lose everything you can be the one to call family members and tell them as it will be too emotional for them to articulate that to others. You can be the one to set up a GoFundMe account should that be needed. If someone is missing you can be the one to put that out on Facebook to try help. Always remember that to these people their whole world is crumbling down around them in that moment. They will have thoughts going through their head like why did this happen to us, how could I have prevented this, what will I do now, and where will I live now. If they have children there concern will be about what is best for the children. Going through something devastating is a trauma and never try to play that down. It will take a good amount of time for them to ever feel safe again. It will be something that they will never forget. Imagine going to bed every night wondering if a fire will come while they were sleeping and they would not be able to get out, now you know how they are feeling. Don’t tell them to be happy or not to be sad. Their feelings are valid and you cannot fix it for them. Just be there for them.
  5. Be creative with how you give back. There are so many more ways for you to be able to help without having to give money or donate your items. If you are unable to help financially you can always help with your time. If it is a large scale disaster you can volunteer to help at shelters, places that are housing displaces animals and people, places that are giving out food or clothing donations. Giving your time can be just as helpful as giving money; sometimes it is even more helpful. You can help clean up after a disaster; this is also an opportunity to be there emotionally for them, because as they go through the rubble they will get emotional. Let them feel what they are feeling, but hug them and tell them they are not alone and that they are loved. If you own a business you can offer your services or skills, such as free haircuts and blowouts, veterinary skills or nursing skills for injured animals and people. If you have a spare bedroom or extra room in your home you can help by giving them a warm safe place to sleep at night. They might have lost their car so you can offer to help by driving them around to where they need to be. There are so many things that can be done that do not have to be monetary donations.

The most important thing to remember is that emotions will be high and anything can set someone off and make them sad or even mad. Never tell them that it is not ok, because it is more than ok. Everyone copes in their own way, so even someone who seems like they are ok and put together may just be feeling like they need to be strong for everyone else, but when they are alone they break down. Know that no matter what someone says, even if they say they are fine, inside they are not, hug them and let them know they are not alone. Sometimes even that simple act can mean so much.

This is a safe space to share your experiences, to vent about your situation, or to offer your advice about what you may have experienced and how people can help so please feel free to comment on this post. If you need someone to talk to or vent to and you don’t want to do it publicly reach out to me by email and I can be that person for you.

Donations for Paradise Camp Fire

If you were looking for a place to make direct donations to the people of the Paradise Camp Fire you can do that here. Please do NOT feel like you have to donate here. I only put this here because I have had people emailing asking if I was taking donations. The money collected will be given directly to families from Paradise who are in need. I am not going to donate it to a foundation, as that involves to much paperwork and time for those families when they need help now, not later.


Paradise “camp fire”

This was not a post I planned on making, but I need to. Today a fire ripped through Paradise Ca and basically leveled it. The fire is burning so fast, at a rate of 80 football fields a minute. People needed to get out of their house as fast as possible in order to stay alive. In order to get out of town people needed to drive down Skyway with flames on both sides of the road with wind blowing it across the road. As many people tried to escape their home to safely they were met with fire barriers and would have to find a parking lot to wait out the fire going across so they could leave. For many people this who situation has been terrifying. 


So far, the fire has burned 20,000 ackers of land, but by the time you read this it will be more. Firefighters had stopped trying to battle the fire and were just concentrating on helping people get out safe. There are 2,289 fire personnel, 303 fire engines, 59 fire crews, and 11 helicopters to try and help battle this fire.


I have family and family friends who lived in Paradise. They are all safe, but they have lost their homes. Thankfully the most important things were saved, family members and pets. Right now, everyone who lived in Paradise are worried about friends, family, and making sure they all have places to sleep tonight. As time goes on, they will want to go back to their houses to see if anything was left. After that they will start to think about re-building.  

Fire 1

I have already started to think about the things that they will need in order to re-build. I am now collecting anything and everything that people can spare in order to help. Some of the most basic common things that are needed are clothing, food, and bedding. Because this fire spread so fast a lot of people were unable to collect some things. I am going to collect things and then next week bring them up to Chico for them to use and share with others who need it.

If you are interested in helping by donating items that you no longer need and you live in the bay area, CA please message me. My email is crystal.galati@gmail.com.