Rules To Meeting The Parents

Meeting the parents can be scary, but it can also be exciting at the same time. Meeting your significant others parents is a big deal. Most people don’t tend to introduce the person they are dating to their parents until they are sure about the relationship. There are exceptions to this, but most of the time meeting the parents is the next step in the relationship. If you have made it this far congratulations!! Meeting the parents means that you are an important person in your significant others life and so they want to introduce you to the other important people in their life. Sometimes meeting the friends is more important than meeting the parents. If that is the case then these rules can be followed as well.

Here are a few simple rules to help get you started:

1.       Don’t freak out! Yes, it can be scary, but concentrate on the good things not the negative what if situations. Keep reminding yourself that your significant other wants you to meet them so they think that you are ready and it is the right time. Also remember that they don’t know you either so the parents will be just as nervous as you are.

2.       They want to meet you! This is a big one to remember and yet most of us forget this part. The parents want to get to know the person that their child is crazy about. Up until this point they only know you through what your significant other has told them. There is also a chance that your significant other has not told them anything so this is the opportunity for the parents to get to know you.

3.       Ask questions! Your significant other is a well of knowledge for you. This is your opportunity to learn as much as possible so you don’t go into this situation blind. Some good things to learn are what topics to stay away from. What their interests are so that if you share the same you will have some topics to talk about. Found out if there is any drama that you will need to stay away from. The last thing you want to do is put your foot in your mouth.

4.       Use basic manners! If you have perfect manners then great, you can skip the rest of this and go onto number five. The most basic manners are please and thank you. The issue that I have is not my please and thank you, it is swearing. I am a lady, but I tend to swear like a sailor. I know this is not a good thing and I need to be better about it, but around the parents it is a no no. Make sure to be respectful even if someone else is not. Extra brownie points if you offer to help, mothers love that.

5.       Know your audience! Two topics to stay away from as a general rule are politics and religion. If you know before hand, ask questions, that you share the same religious background or have the same opinions about politics then it is ok. Religion and politics can start a heated conversation, so if that is what you want then talk away.

6.       Be yourself!! This is the most important rule. Do not try and be the person that you think they want you to be. If you do this then you will come off as fake. Your significant other fell for you, not someone else. Let your personality shine through. If your significant other told their parents about you then they will be excited to meet YOU.

The best advise I can give is to go into the situation with an open mind and always be respectful. If you are relaxed and be yourself, I am sure their parents will fall in love with you as your significant other did.

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I just recently met my boyfriends’ parents, this Thanksgiving, and I can say that I was nervous, but I followed these rules and it went great. I can say that I wanted his mom to like me because he is close to his mom, but I didn’t change the way I did things, well I did not swear so for me that was a positive good life change. In my opinion things went really well, but just to make sure I asked my boyfriend and he said his mom liked me. I hope this helps you get through a scary situation.

Please share any rules or tips that would help others. The whole point of this is to share knowledge and help others get through life. Life can be hard so even a little help can make it easier.  

Welcome!

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Welcome to my first ever blog post!

I guess this is the part where I have to convince you why you should read my blog and take the time to keep coming back and reading it. I am not going to do that. What I will do is tell you what I am going to be putting in my blog, why I am writing it, and things that I am passionate about. If you find that you like what you see and want to keep reading then I invite you to come along for my journey.

I honestly have been thinking about writing a blog for three year now and am finally taking the jump into the unknown and doing it. There are a few reasons why I have been hesitant, but the biggest one is that I figured people wouldn’t care what I have to say. Over the years I have come to realize that is not the case. My friends have always come to me for advice. I never really thought about that as being significant, yet it is. They keep coming back to me for advice because I never tell them what they should do in any given situation. I am the person who will give you both sides of the situation so that you can make a clear educated decision. Most of the time we are unable to see another side of a situation or someone’s point of view. I have been there before and had a friend tell me I was being crazy because of whatever reason and then I have to take a step back and realize I was being crazy. If I had not proven to be someone to take advice from they would not keep coming back to me. There are times when they get frustrated because I would not make a decision for them, but in the end they are happy I did not. I could never tell someone what to do with their life, because I do not live their life. I do not have to live with the decision that is made, they do.

This blog was started as a way to share knowledge that I have. I do not know everything about everything, but the things I do know are significant and I know there are some people who will be able to relate to the things I have been through and will go through. I want people to be able to learn from my “mistakes” in life. I don’t really consider them mistakes though, because they have made me into the person that I am today and I love the person that I am. I will talk about life, love, and how to make the most of it. Some things I have been through and will write about:

  • My mother had a chronic illness and died young, but she taught me the best lesson about life in the world.
  • My father was not really a part of my life. To me he is a stranger, but we have been talking a little recently. I have the opportunity to learn why and who he is if I take the time.
  • I have been married and then got divorced, but I was able to find myself again through years of self-evaluation. I learned a lot of life lessons from this one.
  • I have had hip dysplasia for all of my life, until last year when I got a hip replacement. I had been in pain every day of my life until recently, and even still it comes and goes, but I will explain more later.
  • I found love again in the most unique situation and I can say I have never been happier in my life.

Some things that I am really passionate about are my friends and family first and foremost. I would not be the person that I am today without all of the amazing people in my life. Even the not so amazing people that have come and gone out of my life made me the person that I am. I have had the pleasure of making friends from all different types of backgrounds and who have all lived different situations and from that I have learned so many things about life. I have been blessed to grow up in such a beautiful place and I enjoy going out and seeing new things and just enjoying nature. I live near the beach and when I am having a bad day going down there and just listening to the ocean waves is so calming. Some of my hobbies include video games, crocheting, reading, and playing with makeup. I am a cosmetologist and I am always either doing someone’s hair or their makeup. Cosmetology is something that I love doing, but never got into doing professionally, but I will explain more in a later post.

So to wrap this up. My blog was started as a way to share my experiences and hopeful help someone learn from my past or just learn about life from a different prospective. If you have made it this far THANK YOU so much for sticking with me. My promise to you with this blog:

  • My posts will be unfiltered
  • I will never lie to you, even if it comes at my own embarrassment. Everything is a life lesson.
  • I will not sugar coat anything. I will always tell you like it is.
  • I will do my best to be consistent with posting, but life does happen.
  • Hopefully this blog will be entertaining to you.

My final thought I will leave you with: every connection, big or small, has an impact on our lives. Who knows maybe in reading my blog you will find something that will help benefit your life.

I would love to get to know you or what you are interested about hearing so comment down below!

With Love,

Crystal

*The picture represents life, difficult at times, but so worth it.